Research roles in action-oriented gender research provide opportunities for closer, deeper and more common understanding of change. The joint processes create a new knowledge and shared analysis of the action-oriented gender research can contribute to deepening perspectives.This kind of research puts different demands on the researcher compared with many other types of gender research. There are dilemmas with being interactive, flexible and reflexive in that you are participating and are a part of the action processes at the same time as you are researching them. To connect these participatory, action-oriented and learning processes is a challenge that I want to address in this paper. After the background section, I present a summary of what I call my research: action-oriented gender research. The researcher's role is the main part of the paper, which concludes with some discussions of dilemmas.